I don’t have much to say other than to share a simple observation about human nature. In the online comments section of my local newspaper, many people seem angry, even righteously angry. Quite a few people are aggressive to the point of trying to start arguments. People bicker and act dismissively, and civil behavior apparently is the exception to the rule. The majority of posters comment already posturing for a fight and everyone is constantly trying to draw the lines of who is on what side.
All of the negativity depresses me and I feel myself drawn into it. It’s not a matter of whether I can hold my own. I’m a better debater than many of the people commenting, but I’d rather just discuss than argue. Why is that so difficult?
My sense is that there is a lot of fear. That is basically what I get from all of the bickering. Look past all of the intellectual rationalizations, ideological justifications, social game-playing, and psychological personas… look past all of that and what lies beneath is a bunch of people afraid of the world. And it’s not just here. People walk around with this fear all day long and it usually remains hidden behind a social facade.
It’s understandable. There is much to be afraid of. The world is a scary place. I’m full of fears myself. The problem is that the fears seem misplaced or rather projected. People begin with their fears and then look for something to explain why they feel so afraid. look for something to blame, to scapegoat.
I realize this is completely normal human behavior. People have been doing it for at least as long as civilization has existed and probably longer. But it’s still sad.
It just seems like humans always need an enemy, a bad guy. It really doesn’t even matter who gets tagged ‘it’… except to the person who gets to be the scapegoat. The even more weird part is that it’s also a part of human nature to embrace the role of scapegoat. When someone is seen as an outsider, they start acting that way. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
It’s a play and there is a role for everyone. We fall into our scripts and the show begins.
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In case anyone is interested, my thoughts are loosely inspired by the ideas of Arnold Mindell. I’d recommend Mindell’s books, but you can find some info about his ideas on the web (Amy and Arny Mindell website). He analyzes relationships and social roles, and he specializes in conflict resolution both on the small and large scale.
His basic theory is that there are basic roles that have to be fulfilled in any social situation or else the social dynamic gets stuck. The problem is that oftentimes there are certain roles that nobody wants to play. This either leads to collective frustration as this aspect has no outlet.
If no one willingly accepts a particular role, then sometimes it’s forced onto someone. Or people sometimes find themselves acting in a way that seems out of character and it could be because they’re unconsciously playing some role in that situation.